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What’s So Offensive About My Husband’s Not Gay?
You couldn’t stroll onto the gay Internet last week without stumbling over a jeremiad against My Husband’s Not Gay, a typically absurd TLC reality distinct that follows four Mormon men, three of whom are straight-married and one who is wife-hunting, who distinguish their admitted “same-sex attraction (SSA)” from what they view as a sinful “gay lifestyle.”* In addition to a slew of disapproving op-eds, high-profile LGBTQ representation groups like GLAAD denounced the illustrate and a petition calling for its cancelation garnered many thousands of signatures—and this, all before anyone (but a handful of critics) had actually seen the program, which prevailed in airing on Sunday night.
Given that, at least as of the time of writing, the one-hour distinct has not yet undone a half-century of LGBTQ campaign, I feel protected speaking my hold truth: I’m joyful the hysterical, censorious activism failed. For one thing, because the show produced intelligent, productive writing on the intersection of faith and sexuality and the status of the “ex-gay movement,” fond the pieces from Outward contributor Vanessa Vitiello Urquhart, the Atlantic’s Emma Grassy,
What the Heck Is ‘My Husband’s Not Gay’?
Reality television has always been a medium of realness, with TV shows and specials spotlighting different identities your average viewer may not see every day. These can be informative, essential pieces of media, ones that raise awareness about essential issues while discussing them with the complexity they deserve – and then there's My Husband's Not Gay. This one-episode distinct of TLC Presents created by Eric Evangelista has been re-discovered by YouTube commentators who are all baffled at the messages being presented.
My Husband's Not Gay follows four men in Salt Lake City, Utah, who were open to the cameras about their issues with "same-sex attraction" (an attraction to other men). They decided to ignore this aspect of themselves, instead adopting the heterosexuality necessary to hold wives and remain in their staunchly anti-LGBTQ+ church. These men's choices are genuinely intriguing; they speak to the issues of homophobia within different religious structures, while interrogating "nature versus nurture" regarding the core aspects of a person, like their sexuality. Rather than offering a nuanced conversation throu
My Husband’s Not Gay Misunderstands What It Means to Be Gay
The guys on the TLC special My Husband’s Not Gay, which aired Sunday night, don’t identify as gay. Sure, they read as same-sex attracted, they acknowledge that they are attracted to guys, and they go out together to check out other men, but they also repeatedly emphasize the ways they differ from people living a so-called “gay lifestyle” because of conscious choices they contain made. Despite the network’s assertions that the demonstrate “solely represents the views of the individuals featured,” there are repeated proposals that gay men can be attracted to women and that homosexual orientations are not fixed and unchanging but fluid and negotiable. This ought not to be surprising given that some of the show’s subjects are active ex-gay evangelizers. This ex-gay mindset is what makes the show so odious, and its focus on orientation change ought to be distinguished from other, less harmful efforts to reconcile traditional faith backgrounds with LGBTQ identities.
Although My Husband’s Not Gay tries to stick to the personal experiences of its subjects, a group of Mormons who live around Salt Lake City, the ideology of orientation cha
'My Husband's Not Gay' Reality Show Faces Backlash
— -- A new reality display featuring men who say they are attracted to men but do not identify themselves as gay is stirring up real-life controversy as thousands include signed a petition to stop the show.
“My Husband’s Not Gay” features what its network, TLC, calls “unconventional Mormon marriages.” Of the men featured in the show who are married, they are shown alongside their wives, who know about their husbands’ preferences and try to generate their marriages work.
“I was office mates with one of my best friends and I said, ‘He told me he’s gay,’” one of the wives, Tanya, told ABC News, of her husband, Jeff. "And she goes, ‘I told you that, twice.'"
Jeff explains his orientation by comparing it to one’s preference for a certain type of food.
“You could exclaim I’m oriented towards doughnuts and if I was creature true to myself, I would chew doughnuts a lot more than I eat doughnuts,” Jeff said. “But am I miserable? Am I lonely? Am I denying myself because I don’t eat doughnuts as I might favor to eat doughnuts? I’m not.”
A second couple featured on the show, Pret and Megan, met in Sunday Institution 17 years ago and