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I returned from the hospital a mere hour before that night’s mehndi was due to start, still retching but somewhat rested after a restorative IV drip. My father was outside arguing with the florists while my mother was sitting on the living room couch chanting into a mound of dough, performing a spell her grandmother gave her to retain rain away on important occasions, which, judging by the dark clouds swirling outside, wasn’t productive spectacularly well. The house felt tense, as it usually did around exceptional occasions. This was the first wedding in our immediate family. Everyone was nervous.
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By 2002 Pakistan had moved on from Pulse Global tapes. Three years earlier, yet another overweight military dictator named Musharraf had couped his way to the crown (a chronic illness) and then use
“Homosexuality is very usual in Pakistan,” Sinaan tells me as the Muslim ring to prayer rings out along the streets of Islamabad. “But homosexuality is mostly done by straight guys.”
A professor, Sinaan asked Daily Xtra to modify his name to protect his shelter and job security.
Pakistan is a nature of contrasts: a land of fundamentalist Islam, Osama bin Laden’s hideout, and terrorist attacks, where children are gunned down going to school or accused of blasphemy and sentenced to death. Yet it’s also a land where secular, liberal, youthful adults socialize by drinking whisky and smoking weed, where you can discover used lesbian erotica or buy a dildo on the black market.
These two extremes are nowhere as evident as in the LGBT experience.
Pakistan is an extremely patriarchal, macho culture, with a strict understanding of gender expression and behaviour. Ironically, it’s that culture that enables same-sex relationships to flourish, as long as the participants are discreet.
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Pakistan: How has COVID impacted the LGBT+ community?
The coronavirus pandemic has made entity LGBT+ in Pakistan significantly more difficult, in a country where those communities already face numerous challenges, including systemic oppression, social stigma and a legal ban on homosexual acts.
The colonial British government criminalized homosexual activities in India in 1860, establishing them as crimes that can result in life imprisonment or even death by stoning. Though these laws are seldom enforced by officials, as gay and queer activities remain largely clandestine, those identifying as LGBT+ rarely come out to their families.
When family members do come out or are found out to be queer, they face threats of force and disownment. This is why some LGBT+ Pakistanis often move out of their family homes to pursue more freedom to explore their identity and sexuality. However, during the pandemic, exploration and autonomy have become increasingly perilous for some.
Usman, 32, who works for a multinational company in Abbottabad, a city slightly north of the capital, Islamabad, told DW that during the pandemic he has only managed to meet his long-distance boyfriend once
'Happy and Gay' in Pakistan?
LAHORE, Pakistan, June 1, 2009 — -- It wasn't until she was 16 years old, when she'd left her Pashtun family in Peshawar for an elite institution where the teachers were nuns, that Minot realized she was gay.
"I found out when I dated my literature teacher [a nun]," she said. "I got an A."
It is virtually unheard of in the Islamic Republic of Pakistan for a womxn loving womxn to be willing to converse her sexuality openly, especially a lesbian who is also Pashtun. The Taliban, who are overwhelmingly Pashtun and were born in Pakistan's northwest tribal areas proximate Peshawar, have pushed walls of bricks on top of male lover Afghans.
But Minot, now 42, who asked that only her nickname be used because of societal stigma, sat recently in jeans and a T-shirt in the Pakistani city of Lahore, confidently talking about her sexuality, her girlfriends and her attempts to be with men.
"I have been with men, two men," she said. "But that was to get the confusion out of my mind. Since then," she said, pausing, "happy and gay."
Pakistan's religious laws punish homosexuality with stoning, but gay members o